He Said, She Said ... #2!!!

HEY ALL!

I am so incredibly sorry this took so long! Life has been slightly crazy over here! But hopefully I'll be getting these out every other week or so! 

So this time around, I asked the guys and girls what attracted they to guy/girl when they first meet them.

I was surprised that the answers were generally the same! I'm going to start with the girls!

The Girls

* I like it when the guy(s) talk to you first it make me feel like they care and that I'm important.

* When a guy doesn't treat you any different than his own guy friends. Like when they're perfectly comfortable talking to you, and starting a conversation with you! And aren't awkward about talking to you because you're a girl.

*I like it when a guy makes me feel valuable. Not meaning showering me with complements, but when I can see that a guy respects me and my beliefs. A guy who will come up and talk to me when I have no one to talk to, and really just treats me like a friend!

* When they're okay with showing emotion, and being human. When they like Pride and Prejudice and Disney movies... and are content with that.

Okay now this one really grabbed me because I so agree with it! Guys! Listen up! 

* When a guy isn't afraid to open up to a girl, that's a really nice thing! And when guys cry, I don't know! It's just nice when they're not ashamed of their tears! You know?

(And then another girl said) 

* Especially because that could show that they really trust you. They know that you won't berate them for being vulnerable.

(JUST, YES!!!) 

* I think it's really sweet when they remember something you said from a long time ago, which you thought to be small and insignificant, but they were paying enough attention to it, and thought it worth remembering.

* I like that smile guys give you when you do something that's stupid in your eyes and mind, but to them is the cutest thing ever. I also like it when they geek out over my favorite things just as much as me or more.

* I think when guys are open to your suggestions, that tells me a lot about how he'd treat you during a relationship. I appreciate it when you can tell them something, and they'll listen, and care enough to follow your suggestions and advice.

* I really like it when guys just say what they need or want because if they just try to do something on their own and it's not working out, makes me feel stressed out for them. I would rather work on something together then have him do it alone difficultly

There were more, but do you guys get it? It's more your insides that attract us! Just like they can repel us! We care about how you are on the inside! We love your heart, the way you treat others. While out sides matter too (good hygiene popped up a number of times!) we care about the real you! 

And we want to see it! We love when you're show us what you're feeling, when your tough facade fades and the real, vulnerable you shows thru! And yes, it's hard. I get it! But we want to see the real you! 

Now, girls! Your turn to get an earful! :) Here's what the guys said about you! 

The Guys

* I think it's attractive when a girl is willing to have a serious conversation. 

*  How they act. I like it when they're kind and happy. It bugs me when somebody seems to do nothing but complain.

* I'd say shared interests and ideas are a big deal.

* When she immediately is friendly toward you. Even if you've just met or don't know her very well. And even if she isn't talkative, if she's all around friendly toward you.

* When they talk about weird stuff with me at 1 in the morning even tho we've never talked before.

So, for guys (and I know it's a lot less than the girls but this illustrates my point) they like it when you take time to talk to them. Like, seriously talk! 

I know this is hard. TRUST ME! I KNOW! :) I hate going up to guys to talk because things like this flash through my head.

• What if they think I'm flirting?
• What if I sound like an idiot?
• Oh I have no idea what to say!

Stop! Just stop! From what the guys said, if you just be yourself and talk to them, for the most part, they won't think you're flirting! They want to be friends with us just as much as we want to be friends with them. And sometimes it just takes a conversation. 

So I guess over all, both guys and girls like it when you're just yourself. 

Guys, it's okay to show what you're feeling! We don't mind it. In fact, it sometimes attracts us! 

Girls, TALK! Make an effort to start the friendships! Guys like to hear your opinions! And most of the time, if you're just yourself, they don't think you're flirting. So don't worry! 

Over all, Be Yourself! It's a whole lot more attractive! 

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